Today I want to talk about beauty, being / feeling beautiful & self- acceptance. We are all beautiful in our own way, but some people don’t seem to get or appreciate this common fact. I know that I for one don’t always feel pretty and can get frustrated for who I am: this shouldn’t be happening though. I’m sure that many other tweens/ teens/ YA’s get what I’m trying to say here, we experience a lot of pressure from our peers at both school and online nowadays.
What is beauty?
I don’t think even I can answer this question, for it is too broad to pinpoint an answer to one single point. However, if I were to answer this, then I’d probably say something along the lines of ‘Beauty is what ever you want it to be; it can be found in any place, person or thing anywhere in the world. Beauty can be very subjective, what some find attractive or pretty, others don’t, which means unfortunately it can lead to various problems.’ For me, those few sentences sum up beauty quite well: what would be your definition for beauty?
This is the google dictionary definition of beauty:
‘A combination of qualities, such as shape, colour, or form that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially sight’
I guess that this definition does sum up beauty quite well, but there’s just something that I don’t like about it… Perhaps it’s the sense that beauty is so subjective, so individual, which it is, but I don’t think that I am necessarily comfortable with this. Everyone, and everything can be beautiful in some way to some-one, and that’s so important to remember.
This quote is THE BEST!
Not only is this my ‘go to’ quote whenever I’m feeling unsure or upset about myself, as it is so empowering and helps encourage you to accept who you really are. You can’t change who you are, what you look like, or your personality really, but you can decide whether you are beautiful or not. If you feel good about yourself, chances are you’ll look good too.
You don’t have to wear the same clothes as the other people in your peer group just to fit in, and to be considered beautiful, because to truly be beautiful, and to be you, you have to be yourself. At first, this may be daunting, but trust me it is so much easier to be yourself and not a replica of everyone else. I’ve found that people will respect you more too if you choose this option; we weren’t born to be the same, we were born to be different. If you truly want to make an impact in the world, then you have to stand out from the crowd; it’d be boring otherwise.
An aside (but still perfectly relevant) snippet:
This year at school, we went on a field trip (as you do in school sometimes!) and we were allowed to wear home clothes. I’ll admit to normally dreading having to come in your own clothes because I cannot stop worrying about being judged by other people. I wish people wouldn’t judge you because of what you wear.
Anyway, I picked out my outfit the night before and chose to wear one of my favourite tops – it’s super comfy to wear & not necessarily in the style I’d normally go for, so I think I almost like it more because of this. I turned up to school, feeling good and a lil’ bit pretty *sighs* and everything was great… Until one of my ‘friends’ came into the room and looked me up & down with an extremely judgemental face that screamed ‘urgh….’. 😢 I’ll admit feeling quite upset & very embarrassed, so I ended up wearing my hoodie for the rest of the day… Luckily it was a cloudy day & not very warm !
The relevance of snippet taken from my life is that sometimes, it is tricky to be yourself and therefore to be beautiful. I took all the ‘advice’ from my friend, and hated my top that day, whereas someone else literally could’ve come in a second earlier and loved my t-shirt instead. I shouldn’t have been so foolish to listen to that one person’s judgment, I should’ve stuck to being myself. 💚 It’s a lot easier that way anyway!
What is my top- tip for learning to accept yourself for who you are?
I’m not an expert, and this might not work for everyone, but my top-tip to accepting yourself is to try and stop worrying about what other people are thinking. I know you’re probably screaming at me saying that that’s really hard to do, and it is – I’m not gonna lie; I for one still haven’t mastered it yet!
Tuning out to what the world around you is thinking is hard, especially when you have got used to being permanently tuned in, but once you let go, anything is possible. It is so uplifting and liberating to not have any pressure from the others around you as to what you should look like, what you should dress like, etc, but most importantly, what looking beautiful is like. Everyone is beautiful, please remember that fact. Also remember that more people than you think probably aren’t ok with themselves either; nearly every one of us goes through a stage of self doubt some time in our lives.
What did you think of that, lovely readers?
I apologise for this post being slightly longer than normal – I clearly had a lot to say!
What are your thoughts on beauty? Have you got an experience similar to mine? What came to mind as you read this post?
Hope that you found something in here beneficial!
Lots of love,