Dear Readers,
Okay! So here we are: first ever Let’s Chat post! 💙 No pressure for me then… I hope you all enjoy reading this, as it is from a post idea I have been waiting to write since last year; now feels like the right time to go through with it! Anyway, I hope you are excited, because I certainly am!
*drum roll please*
Here goes nothing…
Today’s post is all about boosting others egos.
Yes, that’s right, the first Let’s Chat post is going to be based around the topic of boosting others self-esteem, and why I believe that as humans we should be complimenting each other a whole lot more than we do at the moment. ✨
How hard is it to compliment someone else? To tell them their hair looks nice, or tell them that they’re rocking their outfit today, or to even ask where they got their t-shirt from?

It seriously is easier than answering any question in an exam or test. And it costs you NOTHING AT ALL. All you have to say is ‘Your hair looks cute today’, or ‘I’m loving that dress, where is it from?’, and that’s it. I can guarantee you’ll make your family member or friend (although it doesn’t even have to be one of your friends) feel on top of the world, especially if they were worrying about what they look like that particular day. And, also, you’ll feel pretty good too – there’s nothing lovelier than making someone else’s face light up with happiness, is there? 🎉
We’ve all been there before, haven’t we? We’ve all been testing out a new hairstyle or outfit, and then someone says that they like it, and it’s like WHAT???!!! You feel so happy, so relieved, and so confident that you then want to wear that particular combination 24/7, purely as others think you look nice? I know – it’s sad that we rely on others opinions so much, and that’s why we can be so vulnerable as beings sometimes.
Humans rely on acceptance from others.
I can’t believe I just wrote that. It’s crazy, I mean I don’t necessarily want to rely on others for liking or disliking a certain style, but deep down, I think we all know it’s true. We all know we shouldn’t need others to tell us we look nice to feel beautiful. We all know we shouldn’t ‘backstab’ others behind their backs. We all know that it’s much easier to be ourselves than to pretend to be someone else. But there’s something missing: we know we shouldn’t do these things, although sometimes we seem to be falling into a loophole of breaking these promises/ things we know we shouldn’t do.
Wherever I go, there always seems to be someone being unkind to another. Always seems to be someone willing to be nasty about someone behind their back, for the sake of ‘fitting in’ with a certain crowd. And there is almost never anyone being kind to someone else, and meaning it.
Where has all the kindness gone in our world?
We shape the world we live in, we choose our own environment to thrive, we choose the place we want to fit in. Yes, we choose the place we live in, but we also shape the environment we live in as well.
Next time you see anyone, choose kindness, choose compliments, and choose to be genuine. Choose to be who you want to be. Don't follow others to fit in. Be true to yourself, and everything else will follow.
To help motivate me, I am attempting to give a least ‘a compliment a day’.

We all can drift away from our beliefs sometimes, sometimes we get caught up in the moment and do something we regret. Luckily, this is all part of being ‘human’, but for me, I want to focus on giving positivity to others. I don’t want to cause them anything other than happiness. It will be a struggle, I’m certainly far from perfect, but it is my imperfections that make me who I am.
A compliment a day is designed to help this. To help me continually improve someone’s mood, or even to make their day. 💜 The compliment’s that I am going to giving have to be genuine. If they aren’t, then there’s no point giving them: I simply have to mean what I say.
Simple, right? Wrong!
As I’ve said before, it won’t necessarily be easy to stick to, but it’ll hopefully boost the self-esteem of those around me, as well as make me feel good & kind too.
Care to join me?
Of course, I am encouraging you to take part in ‘A compliment a Day’ as well as me, obviously there’s no pressure for this to happen, but it could be a great change for you & the direction your life is going!
I’ll leave you with a quote:

Wow – first ever ‘Let’s Chat’ post = complete! Not gonna lie, I’m impressed with myself, and I really do hope you enjoyed this post, and that you enjoy many more ‘Let’s Chat’ posts to come! 😊.
So:

See you next time,

This week I’ve had one random stranger tell me I’m pretty and I’ve had a bunch of my friends saying positive things about me and when I say this I’m not exaggerating, one simple compliment can brighten a whole day, someone might be having the toughest day ever, and just one complement can soften the blow, always be a little kinder than necessary, that’s my motto. Amazing post Autumn, as always 💛 x
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That’s so true! One compliment makes a world of difference if you’re having a tough day.
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Agree! It’s so great isn’t it that some words touch hearts so deeply? ❤
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Yes, it’s so powerful! 💕
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Definitely!❤️
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that’s totally true!
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It is isn’t it!
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This is so true, Autumngirl! 💞 One simple, sweet, heartfelt comment can honestly make such a difference to someone’s day -sometimes all you need is to give someone a compliment and make them smile when they’re going through a bad time. ✨ I love your motto too! Thanks for the lovely comment, Autumn x
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Aw thank you so much xx
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I love this first Let’s Chat post! 💛💛 It’s amazing! 😊 It’s really good that you’ve put the message out there, because for a lot of people what you’ve said might be a little short to them, but gurl, you speak wisdom! ✨ I’m loving this Let’s Chat, it’s a great way to spark discussion and to share thoughts/views, I’m definitely going to be looking forward to future posts! I will definitely be complimenting you on a compliment a day, whether it’s through blogging or in real life! That quote is amazing, it’s going to feature in my bullet journal quote pages (I’m a quote addict) 😂
Another quote that stands out to me is ‘You’ll find happiness when you stop comparing yourself to other people.’ Because we do rely on people’s judgement, if they don’t like it, then we don’t like it, depending on how strong your personality is. This post is amazing! Is it okay if I link it in my next post? It’s amazing 😊
Inspirational post, Autumn 🙂🌷
Amber x
ps. Look forward to other Let’s Chat posts and love you featured images 💛
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Haha, quotes are the best!! 😊
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Tell me about it 😊
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They definitely are! 💞
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THANK YOU so much Amber! 💞🎉 Your comment was the sweetest to read – thank you so much for commenting! I’m so glad you’re loving the Let’s Chat posts – maybe you’d want to do a guest post one day, or we could maybe do our collab as a Let’s Chat collab? I don’t mind at all! (And I am so sorry I haven’t replied to your email yet, I promise I’ll get round to doing it! 😄)
I’m really glad you liked the quote too, and the featured images: the quote is certainly one of my favourites and I LOVE YOUR QUOTE! 🎉 I am a self confessed quote addict, and your quote is definitely one I’m going to remember! Thank you for sharing it! 💚 And of course it’s ok to link this post in your next post, thank you so much for wanting to – it means a lot! 💙
I hope you continue to enjoy all my future Let’s Chat post’s too ✨!
Thanks for commenting Amber,
Autumn x
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Aw, I’m glad! It was all true and genuine ✨ I’m considering creating something like Let’s Chat but obviously a different concept but I’m finding it a bit daunting and nerve-wracking, and the thought that it might not take off worries me.
The Let’s Chat really are amazing 😊 I’d love to do a guest post or/and our collab! That would be amazing, I’d love that 💛 Don’t worry about the email, I completely understand, school takes up ALOT of time 😂
The quote is amazing! YASSS! Hello, fellow self-confessed quote addict! Because I’m also one! I swear I flick through them so much on Pinterest, they are so inspirational and great ✨ No worries, I’m glad you liked my quote too 😊
I will be very proud to link this post on my next post, hopefully people will read it and be inspired like me! 🙂💛🌟
Definitely, looking forward to some more 🙂
Amber x
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Well, firstly, I love this idea! 💙 Thank you Autumn for doing this series. I think genuine compliments really can make people’s day, however, I believe we should also learn to be happy with who we are without needing the approval of others. Giving a compliment and seeing people’s reaction is also an amazing feeling 🙂
It’s all about the desire to brighten up someone else’s day and share some positivity and light with others. I know that you remember the compliments you recieve for the rest of your life!
Xxx
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Thank you Gracie! 💙
I definitely agree with everything you’ve said! You always remember the compliments you’ve been given forever, especially from strangers or those you don’t know so well. 💞 Thanks for commenting & joining in for some discussions! 😊 Autumn. x
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Pleasure! Exactly 😊 xxx
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Oh wow! Autumn, I was similing the whole time I was reading this *still smiling*…(now my cheek bones are hurting lol!)
This post made me think that it’s so easy to make someone’s day, isn’t it? Everyone wants to be appreciated and if they get it from us, nothing’s greater than that! Spreading positivity and smiles must me the motto of our lives♥ it makes others as well as us happy!
A compliment for you- You are an amazing writer! (I swear I mean it!) And this post “especially” strung the deepest strings of my heart!
Best compliment someone ever gave to me_ Once someone said that I have a beautiful voice and they have become a fan of my singing! It made not only my day but my whole week!♥♥♥
And it would be my pleasure to join you in “the compliment day”
Penny xxx
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Exactly Penny! It is – it is so, SO simple to brighten someone else’s day just by saying something nice to them! 💞
Thank you so much for saying I’m ‘an amazing writer’ – that means the WORLD; I absolutely love to write and express my thoughts & beliefs. 💚✨ I’m so pleased you think I’m good at it! (And the compliment comes right back at you Penny – I absolutely adore your writing style/ voice too! 😊)
And also, that is a lovely compliment for someone to give to you, I’m sure you do have a beautiful voice! With things such as singing voices, I think that once one person genuinely says you have a lovely voice, it can be such a confidence boost & help you feel more confident about singing, and more often than not, you get even better at it! 🎉
Anyway, thank you very much for all your kind words Penny, and I’m glad I made you smile! Autumn x
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You did! And I’m looking forward to the upcoming “let’s chat” posts! xxx
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Thank you Penny! 💖 Autumn x
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Great post! I look forward to future let’s chat posts! ✨
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Thank you Hannah! 💞I hope you enjoy the next one! Autumn x
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Thanks! I’m sure I will! ⭐️
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Hopefully! 💚Thank you Hannah! Autumn x
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😊💛
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Autumn, yeess this is the best idea ever, you are brilliant! And I’m TOTALLY joining this challenge! ❤ I honestly think everyone should, it would make a world of difference. Ahh, I'm so excited! I loved this post and can't wait for more! xx
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THANK YOU Gayle!! 💞 That means so much, and I’m glad you loved the first Let’s Chat post! ✨ Hope you love all future posts too! Autumn x
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I’m sure I will! 💕
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Autumn, this post was SO real. I never really thought about how much our verbal thoughts affect others, but looking back, whenever someone comments on something I wear or one of my actions, my day instantly lights up! While compliments to people are just that amazing, I also think that we need to learn to thrive on our OWN self-confidence; you’re not just your worst critic, but you’re your best friend. I’ll definitely take on this challenge 🙂
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Thank you! 💞 What you’ve said is so true, compliments are something that can often be overlooked, but the difference it can make to someone else’s day/ life can be incredible. ✨
I definitely agree that as well we need to become more happy and accepting with and of ourselves, and have more self-confidence in daily life too. 😊
Glad you’re taking on the challenge, thank you, and thank you for commenting too! 💙Autumn x
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I’m still loving this whole let’s chat thing, such a great idea! I’ll definitely join you in the challenge. It is really amazing how compliments can make a world of difference! Thanks for sharing ❤
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Thank you Isabel! ❤️ That means a LOT to me, and I hope you enjoy more Let’s Chat posts to come! Thank you for joining in with this challenge as well! Autumn x
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Love this! Such a great message to spread to people! 💕
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Thank you so much! That means a lot! 💞 Autumn x
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I am totally joining you in your challenge!
This post was amazing! Everything you said was so true. I really admire how well you wrote this post!
I am so looking forward to all of your Let’s Chat posts!
💞Esmeralda
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Thank you Esmeralda! I’m glad you’ve joined the challenge too, thank you for doing so! ✨ Hopefully my other Let’s Chat posts will be just as good! 😊 Autumn x
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Love this! I totally agree when you say that we rely on acceptance from others. It’s so true! And here we are trying to fight that tendency when really we should be contributing to making people feel good about themselves. It’s an ego boost and we all need it every once in a while 😉
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Yessss! Thank you; what you’ve said there hits the nail on the head! ✨ I think that giving out more compliments can definitely help people feel good about themselves, and that we all need a confidence boost once in a while! 💞Sometimes, instead of solely fighting the tendency to not rely on acceptance from others, we should look at helping others feel good about themselves! 🌟 Thank you for the lovely comment, Autumn x
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Yess I wanna join the trend!!
This was a really nice post to read 🙂 I thought of all the compliments I have received and how happy they made me. So it encourages me to go out and compliment people.
An old lady once told me that my name was very romantic. That made me feel very happy becai=use I used to hate my name. But now I love it, haha.
Can’t wait for your new posts!!
Isa x
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Yay Isa!💞 Glad you’re joining in with this (thank you!)! I’m so glad you liked this post, and are going to try and compliment people more often like me! You say that you used to hate your name, but I honestly think that Isa is one of the prettiest names out there, so you own it girl! I’m so glad you love your name now though! 😊
Thank you for the lovely comment Isa! 💚Autumn x
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You are so right complimenting others is so easy to do and it’s lovely to make other people feel nice by doing it. I’m going to try and compliment at least one person a day from now on. Thanks for sharing xx
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Thank you!! 💙 Compliments are so easy to make, and you get such a lovely feeling from giving them out so I don’t know why we don’t do it more! 😂 Glad you are going to try and compliment at least one person a day from now on too, and thank you for the lovely comment, Autumn x
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